How Oxytocin Supports Breakthroughs in Therapy As counsellors, we see first-hand how attachment wounds shape our clients’ struggles. But beyond theory, there’s a biological side to healing too—our brains are wired for connection, and neurochemicals play a vital role in the therapeutic process. Oxytocin, often called the “bonding hormone,” is key. It’s released through safe,…
The Truth About Avoidant Attachment: Why Distance Doesn’t Mean Disinterest One of the most common misconceptions about avoidantly attached individuals is that they are emotionally detached and uninterested in connection. This assumption can lead to frustration, misunderstandings, and even a communication breakdown. We see this frequently in couples therapy. The Myth: Avoidant Clients Are Emotionally…
It’s not just personality—it often comes down to attachment. Yep, the stuff we usually associate with childhood has a big say in how our adult brains handle stress. Attachment theory tells us that our early relationships shape the way we connect with others—and how safe we feel doing so. That sense of safety (or lack…
When Daughters Become Mothers: The Attachment Story Behind the Pram When a daughter becomes a mother, it isn’t just a change in role, it’s a seismic shift in the heart, the mind, and often the sense of self. It’s a chapter where the past, present, and future meet in the smallest of bundles. Recently, I…
Recently, I’ve been watching my little angel, aka sausage, my two-year-old granddaughter, navigate the enormous transition of becoming a big sister. It’s been a front-row seat to the sibling dance: the tug-of-war between love and curiosity, excitement and jealousy, all wrapped in a tiny body with even tinier words to express it. There have been…
The First 1,000 Days – Why They Matter More Than We Realise We often talk about childhood shaping the adult self, but there’s a particular window of time – conception through to around age three – that’s quietly doing some of the heaviest lifting in human development. Neuroscientists call it “the first 1,000 days”. Attachment…