It’s not just personality—it often comes down to attachment. Yep, the stuff we usually associate with childhood has a big say in how our adult brains handle stress.
Attachment theory tells us that our early relationships shape the way we connect with others—and how safe we feel doing so. That sense of safety (or lack of it) gets wired into our nervous system. When we’ve had consistent, responsive care, our brains learn how to regulate stress well. If not? It’s like trying to find your way with a faulty GPS.
Secure attachment literally helps the brain manage stress. It tones down the alarm system (the amygdala), and boosts the prefrontal cortex—aka the part that helps us pause, think, and not just react.
So whether it’s a tough meeting, feedback that stings, or life throws a curveball—your attachment style could be quietly steering the ship.
Understanding Attachment doesn’t just help us be kinder to ourselves—it helps us build better client relationships. Because let’s face it, we’re all wired for connection.
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