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When Clients Say “I Don’t Know”
(And Why That’s Not Resistance) There are few phrases that can quietly derail a therapy session like this one: “I don’t know.” And often, something happens inside the therapist. We might feel momentarily stuck.We might try another angle.We might gently probe, rephrase, offer options. Or – if we’re honest – we might wonder whether the…
New Year Resolutions – Old Patterns: The Challenge of Change Through an Attachment Lens
By a therapist with a soft spot for attachment theory and a healthy scepticism about January makeovers Every January we are invited—no, instructed—to reinvent ourselves. New bodies. New habits. New lives. It’s a seductive promise, usually delivered alongside a discounted gym membership and a faint sense of personal failure. But from an attachment perspective, most…
Repairing What Was Never Repaired
(Why This Is Where Attachment Work Truly Lives) There’s a common misconception in therapy that change happens in moments of insight. A realisation lands.A pattern makes sense.A link to childhood becomes clear. These moments matter – but in attachment-informed work, they’re rarely where the deepest healing occurs. That happens somewhere else entirely. It happens in…
Attachment Night Vision: Seeing Beneath the Surface in Psychotherapy
Therapists don’t just listen to stories—they read bodies. This article explores how attachment theory and somatic awareness can give clinicians “night vision” to detect what’s unspoken: the nervous system responses shaped by trauma and care. Learn to work with the body as a storyteller in relational healing
There Is Always a Child in the Room
(Even When the Client Is 58) At some point in attachment-informed practice, many counsellors have a quiet realisation. The client sitting in front of us may be an adult – articulate, capable, reflective – and yet something else is present too. A fear that feels too big.A longing that feels strangely young.A reaction that seems…
